Can we talk lady friends for a hot minute?
This weekend really shed light on many things but one of the things that came up in several 1-1 conversations was the hot topic of having or not having strong women in your life that lift you up. You know, friends that support you, encourage you, cheer you on and want the best for you.
While I have my own perspective and feelings on this, it still breaks my heart when I hear women stuffing down who they are and are not feeling supported. Hence why it has become my mission to break this “scene” and give women the support they need to grow, to learn, to be themselves and just be the fabulous women they are.
All we want is to be loved. To be seen as we are. To be supported. To be lifted up and encouraged to shine. But society does a really good job of dampening that, of putting everyone in a box and expecting us to fit a cookie cutter shape, of injecting doubt, of shaming you if you think or act differently.
I call bah humbug on that.
We are not meant to fit in a box or to live cookie cutter lives. In fact, it is totally the opposite. But what happens is when we see someone going outside the box, fear sets in and we realize we want to get out too. But instead of doing just that, we let fear sink in and then we act out of that heavy place. Then we lash out at the people we love because we are hurting.
Why do we do this? Why do we compare? Why do we put down other women? Why do we feel that is the only way to move forward?
I will shout this from the rough tops as long as I live, other women are NOT our competition.
We have to do better, ladies.
I have had the best of both worlds. On one end, I have support but I also have been on the receiving end of not having support and it sucks. But I do have to shout out the ladies in my life that are my rocks. The ones that support me. That encourages me. That pushes me. That shows up for me. That are HAPPY for me. They have come from surprising places and not the people who I thought would be by my side but here they are, in all their awesomeness.
No competition. No judgment. No jealousy. No manipulation. No comparison. No passive aggressive comments. No tearing each other down. No hidden agendas. No conditions. No expectations.
Just pure love. Support. Kindness. Encouragement. Lifting each other up. Cheering each other on. Understanding. Honesty. Rooting for one another. And one big love fest as we go for our goals and play big for our dreams.
Let’s do more of the latter. Let’s support one another instead of tearing each other down. Let’s lead with love and not with fear. Let’s cheer instead of deflate. Let`s when self-doubt creeps in, we choose to heal and grow rather than take it on the people who trigger us.
Ladies, we have to do better. We have to support one another. We have to be the change. We have to be the light. We have to break the moulds and decide we refuse to fit in that box because we can and have to do better.
If you are reading this and thinking it must be nice but Gina, I don't have those kinds of people in my life. I got you. Our community is all about empowering one another and if that is what you need, let’s do it together. Reach out if you want to know more and if you are ready to rise up and spread those beautiful wings of yours.
We are so much stronger together and there ARE people out there who will support the heck out of you and your dreams and who will cheer you on with no judgement, comparison and jealousy.
Lots of love,